The Unsent Letter

Writing is therapeutic. 

If you are feeling angry or upset with someone but can't talk to them about it, an 'unsent letter can help. 

It is also called a no-send letter or a Lincoln letter. Why a Lincoln letter, you may ask? Well, it's because It's because when Abraham Lincoln was angry with a colleague, he would write a letter to them venting his rage but, instead of sending it to them, he would put it aside and look at it a day or two later when his mind had cleared. 

Picture from 

https://drsamanthaboardman.substack.com/p/the-benefit-of-keeping-your-feelings

That's what an unsent letter is. You write down what happened, how it has affected you and everything you would want to say to the person, but don't send it. After it is written, you can either store it somewhere safe if you want to look at it later or you can throw it away. You can choose what you want to do with it. There is no right or wrong way to write it.Just express yourself and let out your frustrations. 

There are many benefits of this type of letter. You can say everything you want to say to the family member, friend, colleague or whoever the person is but avoid the very real possibility that your words could make them angry and escalate the situation. It is really not good to hold in your thoughts and feelings, so this way you can process, release your pain and negative emotions in a safe space. This letter can help you reflect and gain perspective. 

An unsent letter is for your eyes only so feel free to call the person names, swear and say whatever you want. Belive it or not, some people who write unsent letters actually write to their fear and anxiety. Writing truly is a great coping mechanism. 

Give it a try!