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Harry and Meghan

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Last week, Prince Harry lost his appeal to restore his UK government-funded security detail and I have a lot of thoughts on him, Meghan and everything that has happened since they stepped away from royal life in 2020. 

Since Meghan came onto the scene and married Harry, she has received a significant amount of criticism from the media and people all over the world. The scrutiny is often attributed to her identity as biracial, a media personality, and feminist stance with some saying she is unsuitable for the monarchy. I actually feel sorry for her. Every royal, celebrity and person in the public eye is constantly scrutinized, but it seems to go too far with Meghan. With an American father and an African-American mother, she is biracial. How can anyone hate on her for that? The people who hate her for that are racist! Meghan Markle was an actress, best known for her role as Rachel Zane in the legal drama, suits. Every Royal who married into a royal family had a regular job first. Kate, Princess of Wales, worked as an accessories buyer before becoming a royal. Queen Mary of Denmark worked in marketing and advertising before marrying King  Frederik. If the fact that Meghan was previously an actress is the reason some don't like her, they should know she's not the only one. Princess Anne's son Peter Phillips ex-wife, Autumn Kelly, was also an actress and had a career as a management consultant before marrying him. Grace Kelly, Princess of Monaco was an actress before marrying Prince Rainier III. 

Meghan and Kate are always compared to each other which is crazy because no two people are the same. They are two very different women with different life experiences. Kate was a commoner and dated William for ten years before they married, so she was able to see what life would be like as a Royal and think first. Harry and Meghan dated for just over year and spent very little time in the spotlight before announcing their engagement so she probably didn't fully understand what she was getting into. Meghan is often criticized for things Kate is praised for. They have to follow strict royal protocol and when Meghan breaks it in any way, such as her fashion choices, people get angry but when Kate does, everyone says she looks amazing. They both touched their stomachs a lot during their pregnancies which people found weird when Meghan did it but sweet when Kate did it. You simply can't compare the two.  

Everything Meghan doing very normal, human things is criticized - Her smiles, how she hugs and touches people, the way she looks at others and moves. Are people running out of things to hate her for? The fact that people are annoyed by Meghan calling H annoys people is confusing. Don't we all have nicknames for our loved ones? Most of the comments on every article about her are negative. If you don't like it, don't look at it. Just scroll past. Meghan isn't perfect, but none of us are. 

Moving on to Harry. I remember hearing him say a few times over the years that he wished he could experience some normalcy and he has talked about the trauma of losing his mother at a very young age. The treatment of his wife played a part in their decision to step away from Royal life. Seeing the bullying and intense scrutiny on Meghan, he feared that he would lose her the same way and the fears increased when their son Archie was born. Now, I understand why people are confused by the decision. They said they wanted a quieter life, but now here they are living among other celebrities, walking red carpets, producing Netflix shows, giving interviews and basically still living a public life. I think what may have happened is that the pressures of being royal got to them, the attacks on Meghan was intense and tensions with members of the family was too much, so the decision was made to keep them and their children safe. Archie and Lilibet are kept out of the spotlight and anytime they appear in photos or videos, their faces are covered. 

I completely understand Harry's concerns for his family. He doesn't want what happened to his mother to happen to any of them. That's why he's fighting so hard to get security in the UK. He may not be doing royal duties anymore but he is still Prince Harry and is still treated like a royal by the world. I think he should have some level of security when they are in the UK. In the interview he gave after losing the appeal, he said he wanted to reconcile with his family. Unfortunately, I think it may be too late for that. The Royals don't air out their personal issues and Harry did that in a major way. He and Meghan gave that interview with Oprah, talked about their journey from their courtship to their exit in a documentary on Netflix, He wrote the book. 'Spare' revealing very private, personal moments and called a family member racist. It all would have deeply hurt King Charles, Prince William, Kate, the children and all of them. After all that, he can't expect to make up with them so easily. 

No one really knows what happens behind closed doors. The only people who do know what is happening are Harry, Meghan and the royal family. The only announcements and statements about the situation people should believe are official from the palace. Not the media, friends or sources close to the them or anyone else. Everyone can share their opinions but we have to remember that this is a family with real problems like all of us have and their are children involved. 

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